In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin responds to how the bride should handle the gifts and guests after her groom's ill-timed arrest.

GENTLE READER: Yes, you certainly did entertain your guests. They’re still talking about it. But of course, you are right that your daughter cannot keep the wedding gifts on the grounds that the guests got their money’s worth. The rule is that presents are returned if the wedding does not take place.

The bridal party was getting dressed and photos were being taken while the bride was on the phone with an attorney, attempting to have the groom released. Guests were already arriving since it was more than an hour’s drive for all of them.