MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

"Although it was meant as a nice gift, it didn’t work out that way," the bride wrote on Reddit A bride says her stepdad's "surprise" wedding gift turned out to be an embarrassing spectacle for her and her guests.

The bridal party was getting dressed and photos were being taken while the bride was on the phone with an attorney, attempting to have the groom released. Guests were already arriving since it was more than an hour’s drive for all of them.

In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin responds to how the bride should handle the gifts and guests after her groom's ill-timed arrest.